Live Life to the Fullest

You only get one life. You may make many mistakes, you may even repeat them... multiple times, but you only get one first time for everything. You will never relive any birthdays, even though it may seem like da ja vu. You will never be one years old again. There will not be a second first kiss with the same person. No such thing as a first date re-do. There is no magic button to help you forget your first love and first break up. Time will help heal your wounds, but the memory remains... so learn from your mistakes. Protect yourself and your heart in life, love, and happiness. I'm not saying you should be so cautious that life suffers and that you never live to the fullest or are able to love again, but when you know something is wrong in work or in play and you are having trouble accepting the enevidible change.. do something proactive. If you don't live a proactive life, life will eventually make decisions for you and you will not always like the outcome.

40 years could go by and time may make you bitter if you do not persue happiness, instead simply accept that you have settled. I digress because time and again I have found or placed my self in these situations of self deprication, poor work environments, unrequetted love, verbal abuse, or the unknown of the future. Thankfully I've never had all of these at once and the situations have never been exactly the same, and for the most part I have learned from my mistakes or accepted what I wanted and for the most part learned to pick my battles to prevent the pain or heartbreak that no one wants to feel, but has to live through to learn and get to something that is better or prevent something worse in the future. In fact I truely believe that ever poor or downright shitty situation I've ever put myself in, has always turned out for the best if not better then I could have ever imagined.

If you don't leave a poor relationship (a family member, lover, friend, or business partner) you would never be able to meet the love of your life, you may alway be put down, you may be too sad to meet a golden friend, or pass up the work of a lifetime. At the same time if your not patient and caring of something who you do love, you may pass by the love of your life and regret it forever. If you don't stand up for yourself, it is likely no one else ever will. When someone puts you down, if you do not stay strong and not stand for it, it is likely that person will walk all over you forever.

What is love? I don't know. Watch Sex and the City, Anchor Man, Sleepless in Seattle, When Harry Met Sally, Romeo and Juliet, How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days, or Hitch. I digress, because for as many times as I am sure I have found love, I can not explain it to you until you realize you have it. I have read many books, and watched thousands of movies.. including almost ever Disney Classic. Your parents are probably your best example though. You grandparents may be another, or the happiest most well rounded couple you know, think of them. They have probably learned to pick there battles, when to bring up certain topics and when not to. They probably know what is worth bringing up, because the rest of the negative problem solving will not take them anywhere or solve anything. Most likely those people are not selfish when it comes to their partner. They have begun to make themselves a priority, but also do what is best for themselves, their relationship, and their significant other or friends. They may fight with those they love, but in the end they always remain caring and forgiving. Stupid things are of the past and can be laughed about, made fun of, but still forgiven. EVERYONE has a quirk, and EVERYONE has something that annoys each of their friends, family or significant other (it may not be the same thing for each person, but everyone has something that bothers someone else). It is being able to overlook, forgive, comprimize or work past those things that makes the difference in which relationships will work in your life. It is the difference between being a recluse and truely being able to be close to someone else. Feelings often help people work past those quirks, but sheer will also helps.

This is more information then more 'feeling based talk' then I would normally put on one of my blogs, but these are hard lessons and ones I've had a lot of time to ponder in the past few months. Since they are hard lessons, I hope these words help at least one person who reads them. I digress, and can't always fully practice what I preach. Happy Sunday.